When is it Time to Leave part 2

Signs it’s time to leave an alcoholic spouse

Alcoholism has negative consequences on the spouse of an alcoholic partner, but people may have a hard time deciding when it is time to leave an alcoholic husband or wife.


Consider the following tips for spouses of alcoholics to help you decide when it’s time to leave an alcoholic spouse:


You find that you are mentally and physically exhausted from the effects of alcoholic behavior in relationships.

You have lost all trust in your partner.

Your partner has begun to become emotionally abusive, such as by bullying you, criticizing you, or blaming you for their behavior.

The entire life of your family revolves around your alcoholic spouse, and your needs or the needs of the children are falling by the wayside.

You have become fearful of your spouse and constantly walk on eggshells to avoid angering him or her.

You have gotten stuck in an endless cycle of your partner entering treatment but failing to make lasting changes.

Thinking about continuing to live with an alcoholic partner makes you feel physically sick.

You’ve begun to experience your own negative consequences, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, substance abuse, or financial issues because of your partner’s ongoing alcohol abuse.

Your partner is unwilling to give up drinking and shows no willingness to accept help.

The alcoholic spouse has begun to engage in dangerous behavior, such as driving under the influence, getting into physical fights, or acting out violently against you or other members of the family.

You have tried to intervene to get help for your partner, but they refuse treatment.

You are only staying in the relationship because you are afraid to leave.

Getting over a relationship with an alcoholic can be challenging, especially if you have a history of happy memories before alcohol took hold of your partner’s life.


That being said, when you begin to notice the above signs in your relationship, chances are that it has become entirely unhealthy, and you deserve a life that is free from this level of chaos.

After grieving the loss of the relationship and taking time to heal, you will likely find that you are happier without the distress of being in a relationship with an alcoholic and being exposed to the devastating effects of substance abuse.


So, if you feel that it’s time to leave an alcoholic spouse, trust your gut! You may also seek professional help if you are in two minds.


Giving it one last chance

When thinking about leaving an alcoholic boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse, a person may decide to give things one last chance and try to get help for an alcoholic. You should consider reading "My Spouce and Drinking"


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Toni🪔



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