What To Do If You Discover Your Wife Cheated With Another Woman

You just found out your wife cheated on you? Holy cow!

But wait. She locked lips with another woman?

Mind blown!

Your head feels like it’s breaking into hundreds of pieces. You can’t think straight. And you probably don’t know what to do next.

Good news, you’ve landed on the right page. I am going to tell you exactly what to do if you discover your wife cheated with another woman.

No, revise that. Do this breathing exercise: take in 5 slow deep breaths, and make sure you exhale even more slowly. Neuroscience has shown that breathing like that will immediately calm down the anxiety that is pulsing through your body.

Here’s what not to do if your wife cheated with another woman:

1. Don’t start calling all of your friends and telling them that your wife’s a lesbian

First of all, your wife’s cheating on you with another woman doesn’t automatically mean that she’s a lesbian.You don’t know yet if she’s just bi-curious, experimenting for the hell of it, or if she’s in the middle of a sexual identity crisis. In which case, she might be starting to identify as lesbian or bisexual. The point is you don’t know. And you won’t know until the two of you talk.

Second, throwing your wife under the bus to your friends is a bad idea. It will come back to bite you! Think about it — do you want your friends and wife to hate each other?

2. Remind yourself that this isn’t your fault

This isn’t about you. It’s about your wife.

Even if the quality of your marriage had gone down the tubes recently, your wife didn’t have to go and cheat on you with another woman! She could have let you know that she was on the brink first.

3. Talk to your wife

Have this conversation sitting together face to face. Start out by telling her that you know that she cheated on you with another woman. And let her know that you want to understand more about what she’s going through.

Be aware that your wife is likely to seem upset at this point. She might even deny or lie. Stay calm and tell her you know the truth.

If she gets upset, let her know that you still love her. Do something that will soothe her. Perhaps a hug. Tell her that you guys will get through this.

Try to approach this conversation with curiosity. In other words, ask lots of questions without accusing or blaming.

You can ask her what she’s learned about herself? What it all this means for your future as a couple? If she’s willing to go to couples counseling with you?

You may not be able to have this conversation all at once. If it becomes a nasty argument, table the conversation until you are both calm.

4. Get back to regular exercise

Moving your body and getting your heartbeat pumping on a daily basis will help manage your distress.

Either go back to the gym or start going on walks or runs in your neighborhood.

5. Take time to recall the major complaints your wife has about you

You know what her big complaints about you are, right?

Are any of them legitimate complaints? If so, then I challenge you to finally decide if you want to address any of them.

What can you do differently, that would actually erase one or two of the complaints she has about you?

Now go do that.

See, chances are pretty high that your wife is feeling like there’s something not going right, or that’s unfair in your marriage. It’s time for you to clean up your side of the street.

6. Ask your wife if she’ll go with you to couples counseling

Infidelity is really hard for couples to heal from on their own.

It’s hard enough to figure out why a wife had an affair with another guy and to then rebuild the trust and marriage.

But when your wife cheated with another woman? Well, it’s even more complicated and difficult. There are simply more layers to tease apart and understand.

So ask your wife if she’ll go with you to couples counseling. Tell her it will mean a lot to you.

A good affair counselor who knows how to help couples sort through the questions of experimentation vs sexual identity will be your best bet.

And remember that just because your wife cheated with another woman your marriage is not necessarily over.

If you want to make your marriage a priority again..

It can and will work out.

But make the conscious decisions first.

DO YOU STILL LOVE HER?

ARE YOU REALLY GOING TO BE ABLE TO MOVE ON AND MAKE YOUR PART IN THE MARRAIGE YOUR BIGGEST PRIORITY??

If your answers is YES

GO TAKE YOUR WIFE BACK AND CONVINCE HER ABOUT YOUR LOVE FOR HER MAKE HER YOUR PRIORITY AGAIN...

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