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Taking responsibility

Part 2


Ten Reasons Why Some People Won’t Take Responsibility for Mistakes

So what causes people to refuse to take responsibility for the errors of their ways? Here are ten.


1 – They Think it Will Benefit Them

Most of the time, people avoid taking responsibility for their mistakes because they think it will benefit them. It happens when the person can’t think of another solution or feel that they can’t handle it. They think that avoiding responsibility is easier than holding themselves accountable.

2 – They Have a Victim Mentality

Counselors reveal that this is sometimes caused by the person having a victim mentality. If someone has a victim mentality, they feel that bad things happen to them and that other people are to blame. They also believe that something is always preventing them from succeeding, so they don’t even try.

Oftentimes, they believe that there is no solution to their problem. The person gives up and believes that it didn’t work out because of the obstacle, rather than admitting it was because they didn’t try to find a solution.

Oftentimes, they believe that there is no solution to their problem. The person gives up and believes that it didn’t work out because of the obstacle, rather than admitting it was because they didn’t try to find a solution.

3 – They Feel Powerless

People who don’t take responsibility for their mistakes also may feel powerless. They want things to go well, but it seems that they can’t do anything about their life to make them better. This is often because they think that change is impossible or that it will never work out.

4 – They Use Negative Self-Talk

Counselors also reveal that negative self-talk or self-thoughts contribute to this behavior. People believe that bad things only happen to them and that they deserve all of those bad things.

5 – They Fear Rejection and Feel Like No One Cares About Them

They often feel like no one cares about them, so they don’t want to admit their mistakes because they are afraid of further rejection. Their fear of making others angry or disappointed in them is too great to admit fault when it is necessary.

6 – They Lack Self-Confidence

Another reason for not being able to take responsibility is a lack of self-confidence or self-esteem. They may not think they are good enough or smart enough, and they won’t work on being better. Plus, they won’t try anything new.


7 – They Harbor Negative Feelings

Frustration, anger, and resentment can all contribute to someone not taking responsibility for mistakes, too. When these negative feelings take over, it feels better to blame someone else or think of how someone wronged you. They also don’t like to see other people being happy and successful.

8 – It’s a Defense Mechanism

Past trauma often contributes to not taking responsibility. It develops as a coping mechanism, and it can be hard to change that once the situation is over. When they think a situation will be challenging, they will deny responsibility to avoid dealing with the problem.


9 – They Feel Like They Are Losing Control

People who avoid taking responsibility would blame their behavior on someone else if they lost control. If they lost their temper or said something hurtful, they will blame the other people for making them say it. They do this because they feel like they have lost control and always need to always feel in control.

10 – They Have a Fragile Ego

This type of person wants to feel better than others and that they are right and others are wrong. To do this, they will blame their mistakes on others or make it seem like someone else caused them to fail.


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