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Signs of a Physically Abusive Wife or Girlfriend

Signs of a Physically Abusive Wife or Girlfriend

“My ex-wife would grab me, scratch my face, tear my shirt. If I tried to get away, she’d stand in the doorway and block the exit. She’d take my car keys. Sometimes, she would park her car behind mine or drive my car away so I couldn’t escape.

I never got physical back. I kept hoping she’d stop.”

-a battered man

Physical abuse of a partner (domestic violence) is the category of partner abuse that gets the most attention. When I became aware of abuse of men by women, I wasn’t expecting to see or hear much about physical abuse, but I have been surprised by how many men have dealt with a physically abusive wife or girlfriend

How Abusive Women Overcome Strength Disadvantage

Men’s size and strength advantage over women has been among deciding factors that have led many people to conclude that physical abuse of a man by a woman is a non-issue. However, women who physically abuse men can overcome their strength disadvantage in many ways.


surprise attacks,

the use of objects either as direct weapons or projectiles,

striking when their prey is in a vulnerable position (driving, asleep, drunk, has his back turned . . .),

counting on their partner to not strike back*, or

soliciting the help of others to attack him.

*A man may prevent himself from striking back because of training or desire to not hurt a woman, his non-violent nature, or concern that he will get in legal trouble. Even when his partner is

whaling on him, a man may restrain himself from countering the attack.

Poisoning over a period of time is a method that some very malicious women use to abuse their husbands and partners. It falls

into several of the methods for overcoming size disadvantage that I mentioned above: surprise, use of objects, and striking when their prey is vulnerable (unsuspecting in the case of poisoning--just going about his

daily routine.

15 Signs of a Physically Abusive Girlfriend or Wife

Women use a variety of methods to physically abuse their partners:

throwing or breaking things







interfering with sleeping or eating

blocking exits


hitting with open hands or fists

hitting with objects

forcing him out of the house

attacking, or threatening to attack, others

assaulting with knives, guns, or vehicles

Men's Stories: Examples of Domestic Violence Against Men

I've talked with many men who have been targets of domestic violence and from their wives and girlfriends.

Attacked in His Sleep A man was woken up in the middle of the night by his wife pounding him with the clock radio. She hit him in both arms, the chest, and face—right beside his eye—before he flet the house and called the police. They hadn’t argued that day. The attack came out of nowhere. He had become accustomed to her being controlling, demanding, and manipulating, even throwing things, but she had never hit him before. He was cut and bruised from the attack, which upon further reflection seemed to be an attempt on her part to provoke him to fight back so she could get him into legal trouble. He hadn’t known beforehand, but she seemed to have been trying to put herself in the best position to divorce him.

Hit by His Wife and Kids

A man’s wife often violently hammered him with her fists, pounding him all over his body. At times, she would encourage their teenage sons to beat him as well.He would curl up to try and protect himself from the blows, but he didn’t physically fight back. He was not a physically violent person. He hoped that reasoning with his wife would make the attacks stop.

A Hidden Surprise in His Dessert

A woman who was demanding and controlling, lied, had affairs, emptied joint bank accounts . . . and generally terrorized her husband, physically abused him in a way that defies categorization: she put needles into his favorite dessert. When he discovered the needles, she acted like it was a joke.

This is true stories, and not a laughing matter. If you find yourself laughing at this...

Ask yourself Why?

Is it because it makes you uncomfortable


Is it to close to home...


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